Resentment vs Forgiveness

I love this quote but i lean more towards the biblical version of Forgiveness.   People ask me all the time to this day actually regarding others..."how are you still friends with so in so or why would you ever forgive so in so or how are you ok after so in so?"  My answer is simple.  That person is no longer allowed to have any hold on me.  To not forgive them requires emotion.  hate, resentment, anger all emotions i used to over achieve at.  

I am not wo those emotions anymore.  But i am still learning.  I have one person i just cant seem to forgive. I cant let go off that pain.  I have prayed about if for over 30 years and it will get better.  But other than that person, i am actually quick to forgive.  Holding on to anger, resentment and pain can actually cause me to get sick.  Make the people around me not happy.  My family does not deserve a mom or gf angry all the time because of another person that doesnt matter anymore.  

I actually had a person say to me "i hope you can get past this and forgive me, then you can finally be happy.  you are such an unhappy person Michelle"  My response was simple.  I forgave you a long time ago.  I just dont like you.  I wish you well but i do not see a reason for you to call me.  The reality is that person is unhappy and an unhappy person can only see unhappy, be unhappy, think unhappy. That same person was shocked i would forgive them.  so much he/she cried and hung up.

I have another person that simply will not forgive me. Now this is another issue.  With Gods help i have learned i do not need someone to forgive me.  i had to forgive myself, ask God to forgive me and move on.  I have asked that person for forgiveness and tried to show that person how it took two to make some of the issues at hand.  refusal to grant the forgiveness and move on.....has and is hurting this person not me.  

Our children learn by example.  With all i have done as a mom in almost 20 years.  My children no me to be a flawed person.  Not perfect, not June Cleaver and because of this i hope that these flaws i have been honest with keeps them honest with me.  Admitting mistakes and owning them is difficult.  Forgiving others can be painful.  Once you have done both... cut it loose.  Pray for them and move on.  Only in that forgiveness can you truly be free.

Battlefield of the mind - mine is a war!

When we begin to feel that the battle of the mind is just too difficult and that we arent going to make it, then we must be able to cast down that kind of thinking and choose to think that we are going to make it!  Not only must we choose to think that we are going to make it, but we must also decide not to quit.  Bombarded with doubts and fears, we must take a stand and say, I will never give up!  God is on my side, He loves me, and He is helping me!

Our thoughts become our words.  Therefore, it is vitally important that we choose life-generatign thoughts.  when we do, right words will follow.

When the battle seems endless and you think you'll never make it, remember that you are reprogramming a very carnal, fleshly, worldly mind to think as God thinks.  Impossible? NO.....Difficult? YES!
But, just think, you have God on your team.  I believe he is the best computer programmer around. Your mind is like a computer that has had a lifetime of garbage programmed into it.  God is working on you; at least.  He is if you have invited Him to have control of your thoughts.  He is reprogramming your mind.  Just keep cooperating with Him and dont give up!

It will definitely take time, and it wont be easy, but you are going in the right direction if you choose Gods way of thinking.  You will spend your time doing something, so it may as well be going forward and not staying in the same mess for the rest of your life.

Make a quality decision that you are going to get your mind renewed and learn to choose your thoughts carefully.  Make up your mind that you will not quit and give up until victory is complete and you have taken possession of your rightful inheritance. - J.M.

Joyce Meyer is one of my favorite authors.  When i am in a difficult place in my head or heart i surround myself with positive music, christian authors and people i know bring me up and support me.  When i learned to do that.....God smiled i am positive because He always pulls me through faster.  There is nothing i cant do with Him on my side and my family would suffer without Him in our home. So i say Thank you Heavenly Father once again.  Thank you for helping me help myself and my family i love so very much.